This article is speaking to a very specific kind of man.
Not the unaware man, but the man who is completely aware. Who can name his patterns, his blocks, where he holds tension, where he leaks energy. He has perhaps read all ten articles and has been nodding along, feeling the recognition, and still hasn’t crossed the threshold. Still hasn’t said yes.
He’s likely done retreats. Listened to the podcasts. Read the books. Explored psychedelics. Had the breakthroughs and the insights. And he mistakes this for doing the work.
This man is in a more dangerous position than the unaware man because he now carries not just the weight of the pattern, but the weight of knowing about it and not addressing it.
Knowing where you’re leaking without sealing the leak doesn’t just maintain the leak. It makes it worse. Because every day he knows and doesn’t act, his confidence erodes slightly. His integrity with himself takes a hit. The gap between who he knows he could be and who he is actually showing up as gets wider and heavier.
There is a specific kind of shame that most men never name. It lives in the body. It shows up as a low-grade dullness, a flatness, a background restlessness, a sense that something is always slightly off even when everything looks fine on the outside. So he keeps consuming, keeps gathering, keeps understanding… and calls it progress. Either way… the feminine feels it before he can name it.
Awareness without action is its own form of armour. It protects a man from actually making change. It gives him the feeling of doing the work without requiring him to actually feel anything.
He can read, understand, recognize, and intellectually process his patterns indefinitely without ever having to sit in the actual discomfort of changing them.
The nervous system learns from this pattern. It learns that awareness is the ceiling. That understanding is enough. That the insight itself is the reward. The gap between knowing and doing gets normalized. It becomes the new comfort zone.
What actually keeps him from moving is not a lack of motivation or desire. Crossing the threshold requires feeling what’s been stored in the body. The actual tension, the actual stuck emotion, the actual fear underneath the pattern. From my experience, that cannot be done alone. The nervous system needs another regulated nervous system present to go into those depths safely.
Just like a tuning fork, by being around another regulated human… just like being in nature… your nervous system naturally begins to relax and unwind.
The hesitancy men feel about joining a container like The Embodied Man is itself a nervous system response. The armour that kept him safe in the world is the same armour that keeps him from stepping into the room that could help him take it off and truly be the embodied leader and lover he is capable of being.
The hesitations I hear most often:
“I’m not sure I’m ready”… ready is a myth and you know it.
“I don’t have the time”… five to ten minute of daily practice… you have the time.
“I can’t afford it right now”… I made a price any man can afford, with payment plans available for extra support! Plus, what is it costing you by staying in your comfortable familiar little space?
Each of these is a version of the same nervous system protection strategy.
Leading up to 2020 I knew I was meant to get online, but I resisted it like crazy.
I knew I was meant to share my journey and my unique perspective in greater ways. I didn’t know exactly how, but I knew I was meant to. I had a really deep awareness of that.
And yet I was comfortable. I was doing a lot of the inner and spiritual work. But I was not willing to expand myself with my business. I was comfortable leading martial arts classes, teaching workshops, doing bodywork, making enough to live well on the South Pacific coast of Costa Rica.
Then two weeks before COVID, I got into an accident. Without warning a vehicle hit me while I was driving home from the market. Literally wrote off my truck. Put me in the ditch about sixty feet after impact. I remember spinning down the road thinking “don’t flip, don’t flip”… consciously saying this because I knew if the vehicle flipped I’d be dead. I wasn’t wearing a seatbelt. If I’d been hit a moment sooner it would have been a front-end collision that would have sent me through the windshield.
When the vehicle finally stopped, I was in the ditch backwards which saved me from eating my steering wheel. When I stepped out of the vehicle, the back axle and both wheels were beside the truck.
The next day, I was teaching a five-hour Systema seminar. I showed up. I shared what had happened, and how my training had prepared me to stay present when everything was chaos, literally saving my life! If I tensed up while spinning instead of staying relaxed, the end result could have been much worse.
Two weeks later COVID happened. I didn’t have a vehicle. I couldn’t get to clients for bodywork. I couldn’t teach classes or do workshops because of a lockdown. Life forced me to get online.
And that’s when I finally immersed myself. I started working with men online and sharing my truth on social media. It was one of the most uncomfortable things I had done up to that point in my life and I never would have done it if I could still drive around to clients.
That’s an example of a crisis… one that nearly took my life… being the thing that moved me forward. Life had to intervene because I wasn’t willing to take the step myself.
I’m sharing this because the men who have experienced my immersions while knowing what they needed to address… those men were some of the most profound sessions I’ve experienced. Because they were open and willing to change. They were fully aware of what they wanted to release and they were ready. Actually… ready is a myth. They had decided they were no longer willing to tolerate the old patterns and they called forth the courage to step outside their comfort zone and let go of control.
To truly surrender in a way that some had never been able to before, because it had never felt safe (to relax). They were always in control. Always in leadership. Always in performance mode.
To be able to truly relax and release and let go… that’s what these men got to feel. And I’ve witnessed and held space for some really powerful men to cry. Big energetic releases. And the shift… you can see it in their eyes, in their face, in how they carry themselves afterward.
Because when you discharge that much stuck energy from the body - there is a liberation.
A greater sense of freedom.
Less tension in the body allows for more life force to move freely through every cell. When life force is unrestricted in the body, there is always more sexual aliveness (which I’ve had men report their partners responding well to:). They feel themselves more fully and therefore can better feel the feminine.
Sealing the leak is not a mental act. It is a somatic one.
It begins with awareness… with first acknowledging the leak. And once you’re aware of it, then you can actually do something about it.
A man cannot think his way out of a pattern that lives in his nervous system. He has to feel his way through it. And that requires slowing down, going inward, and having someone present who can hold compassionate space while the nervous system does what it’s been avoiding. The releasing. The letting go. The unwinding.
My private immersions are built exactly for this.
Not a weekend retreat with fifty men. One man. In-person. Devoted time. A specific arc from preparation through immersion through integration.
The preparation week means he doesn’t arrive cold. He arrives already oriented, already aware of what’s asking for attention, already in relationship with the process before it begins.
The immersion itself… whether a half day, full day, or multi-day… is completely tailored to the individual. Continuously guiding and helping him peel back the layers while being held in full presence throughout the process.
After the immersion, there are four weeks of integration support because the most important work happens in the weeks after when the nervous system is consolidating what changed. That reintegration, bringing this new capacity and new sense of being into his current life, is where the shift becomes permanent.
When men come into this space with me, they feel it. They’re used to being the dominant frequency in most spaces they enter. So it can be really refreshing for a man to step into a space and feel “Oh, this man is holding the space for me. I don’t need to hold it all together here. I can actually relax.” And when that happens, the nervous system begins to unwind. I witness this as a softening around the eyes, a relaxing of the shoulders, an opening of the chest, a slowing down of movement and speech.
Every week of knowing without acting is another week of quiet confidence erosion. The integrity gap. The flatness you can’t quite name.
She feels it too. Your children feel it. The body keeps adding to what it’s already been carrying.
The founding window to join The Embodied Man is real and specific.
4 days left.
Spots still available.
There are parts of you that are screaming for change.
There are parts of you that are going to die.
Transformation requires sacrifice in order to create space for the new.
The man who joins this founding round is not just joining a program. He is becoming part of the foundation of something that will support men for years. His transformation ripples outward in ways he cannot yet fully see.
He doesn’t have to have it all figured out. He doesn’t have to be ready. Ready is a myth. It just takes the courage to choose. To no longer tolerate leaking energy. To no longer tolerate the patterns and behaviours that are not aligned with the man he knows he is capable of being.
And he’s not doing this alone. He will be held. He will be guided. He will be supported. And he will have a transformation.
I am willing to back that up with a 28-day guarantee. If after you complete all 28 daily draws, share your experience each week as guided, and don’t experience a shift… I will offer a 1:1 session to address what is getting in the way.
The point is… if you hold up your end, I hold up mine. I offer this because I’ve seen what this practice does when a man actually shows up for it.
Three ways to enter this founding round of The Embodied Man:
Founding Member: For the man who is ready to stop consuming and start practicing.
Full 90-day guided journey
Weekly rhythm and daily embodiment practice
Brotherhood accountability and men’s council
Founding participant status in the first cohort
Systema Breathing for Internal Control... a somatic practice from three decades in martial arts, giving you a direct tool to regulate your nervous system and stay grounded under pressure
$749 until Wed night, $997 afterwards, payment plan available.
The VIP Founding Member: For the man who knows he needs to be held more closely to actually show up.
Everything in the 90-Day Journey, plus:
A monthly 1:1 with me with option to be in-person if in Victoria*, BC (valued at $1,500+, 5-star reviews*)
Sacred Sexuality Part 1 & 2 Masterclasses (valued at $222)
A bonus “Energy Leak Audit” 1:1 session in week one (valued at $500)... so you don’t wait for momentum to build, you start with clarity on exactly where your energy is going
A Gene Keys reading with my wife Sasha, a certified Gene Keys guide, focused on whatever area matters most to you right now... health, relationships, or higher purpose. She’ll help you understand your shadows and gifts through your own personal profile
$2997, payment plans available.
The Immersion Member: For the one man who has been carrying something specific for a long time and is ready to address it directly, in person, with full support.
Everything in the VIP tier plus:
A fully private full day immersion designed around your life and unique developmental edge (full day value $10,000+)
Four weeks of integration support post immersion
A Gene Keys reading with my wife Sasha, a certified Gene Keys guide, focused on whatever area matters most to you right now... health, relationships, or higher purpose. She’ll help you understand your shadows and gifts through your own personal profile
And for the man who is in a relationship… Sasha and I are offering to work with both individuals together for the immersion (value… priceless)
Lifetime access to me - one “Return to Center” session with me, every year going forward
A qualifying call follows payment to confirm alignment
$9997, payment plans available.
4 days left. The cart closes Aug 28th.
Stop dancing around the edge of the pool. Jump in. You will swim. You will be held. You will be guided.
And you will not be the same man on the other side.
P.S. if you still have questions, book a 15-min Clarity Call with me.
With love,
Jonathan